Conversation with a bisexual woman

One of the first people I spoke with was an old friend of mine. I chose to refer to everyone I spoke with by their initials, so that the feel more comfortable speaking about these ideas. Her initials are P.Y. She is bisexual, though she has only been with one woman. She is pretty active in sexuality issues to my knowledge, so I figured that speaking with her would be a good place to start.

Because of her relative inexperience within the community of women attracted to women, she had little to say about lesbian attraction besides what her preferences are, and what she believes the preferences of her ex-girlfriend are. 

She had much more to say about women's attraction to men and discussion of said attraction. Within her group of friends, they frequently have non-argumentative discussions of various features of men's bodies. Typically, she said, her friends are "arm-women," "ab-women," or "ass-women." She described herself as an "ass-woman with a bit of arm." However, after speaking to other women, it seems that these distinctions are more referential with respect to well known distinctions among men, and that the majority of women would not describe their selves as any type of "____ woman"  

Also in discussing with her, I learned that women's discussions are less polarizing, and even in the classifications that her and her friends hold of themselves, they are not as strong as men's. For example, a man would rarely say he is a "leg man with a bit of ass." Men are usually a "tit man," or "ass man" through and through. 

She also proposed a reason for men having two strict distinctions while women have more varied taste/debates. She believes it could be because women have been shown to have hte ability to multi-task more, which is why they are able to direct their attention to more than two parts of a man's body at a time. I think that is interesting and plausible, and fits with my idea that men's competitiveness in their sexual orientation is related to their competitiveness in other areas of sexuality. 

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