Conversation with a Lesbian

As P.Y. suggested, I spoke with her ex, another old friend from high school who has a bit more experience in the lesbian community. 


She immediately pointed out that lesbian attraction is based on a scale of masculinity, an idea which I didn't know much about and thought was a stereotype if anything. She mentioned the ideas of "butch" and "lipstick lesbian," which I assumed were derogatory descriptions of assumed stereotypes. But, in reality, she said that "feminine women look for masculine women and vice versa. Maybe they would look for [physical] features that are considered feminine or masculine."


She added "It's rare to see a lesbian couple and be unable to take a guess as to which one is the manlier one." She defined feminine features to her as being traits of both mind and body. examples in clude "long hair.. flattering clothing...attachment to inanimate objects." Of course, these "masculine" and "feminine" traits are not intrinsic to either gender, rather they are classified as being manly or womanly by society. This is an idea that I developed a stronger opinion on later. 


As far as the way lesbian communities discuss it, she said that they rarely argue. The only argument that might happen is perhaps two feminine women arguing over whose masculine girlfriend was more ideal. 


And for the way that these distinctions are based on physical features, she said that it varies. There is no well defined argument about two features. She prefers breasts, P.Y. preferred legs. R.S also knows of women who are attracted to necks. When women talk about these things, she says it is more of a calm discussion than anything. 

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